because I’m too much of a wuss to post this on facebook. (I have some mean, judgmental ”friends” and my grandma on there.)
My church teaches us to Judge Not, Lest Ye Be Judged. I believe 100% that judging is a right for God alone. So while our church ALSO teaches that a family should be a man and woman, that applies in a religious sense. For temple marriages, for eternal families, I believe marriage will be between a man and woman. But for earth? For NOW? I can teach all I want about my beliefs but my beliefs shouldn’t stop someone from using their right and freedom of choice to get married to who they’d like. That choice doesn’t hurt or harm anyone, (like the choice to murder someone etc.) and is really no one’s business but their and God’s. So yes, I’ll suport their fight to get married legally and enjoy all the same privileges that I do as a married person in the US.
thanks for letting me get that off my chest!!
It works the same way as any job would- the money may come from a government budget, but once it’s given to President (or any state/federal-paid job) it is HIS money and he can go do whatever he wants with it.
Now, in this day and age one could argue that the President really shouldn’t be paid in cash money, but rather through the room, board and “perks” of living in the White House and the accommodations there in. Both Obama and Romney make plenty of money to support their lives without the President’s salary. (which is $400,000 a year plus expenses from a quick unsourced google check)
Can I convert to LDS and retain my feminist beliefs? My mom doesn’t seem to think so. I do, of course, but it is definitely a question that’s nagging at me. Any thoughts?
Very much so! As a woman I’ve never felt belittled, looked down upon or see as less than a man in the church. Read some of the Relief Society Conference talks,the church holds women in very high regard (it’s even a joke that in RSC you get praised and in Priesthood Sessions you get chided)
Now the church does have men and women perform different roles (RS and EQ, Bishopric and Primary etc. etc.) but when it comes to important things- theology, temple covenants and blessings- we are all the same. While a woman may never be a bishop there are many callings where women work closely with the bishop, attend the same meetings and help run the ward just as much as the men do.
In my ward the bishop is very vocal about husbands supporting wives both in home and church. He is known for often remarking on how Priesthood is not something to be lorded over women, or used to guilt women into submission. He never speaks to just one partner about important things (like callings or what-not), he always makes sure wives/women are included in big ward-wide decisions. Heck, even for really big callings he makes sure the baptized children are involved!
I can see how non-members can see the media portrayl of mormons and be shocked that any educated woman would choose to join, but idea that we’re ALL housewives who live to only cook, clean and change diapers and give into our male leaders every whim? Totally fictional (or taken from the FLDS)
Tumblies, This will be a personal and religious post, move along to the next GIF or Pic!Spam if you’d like.
I’ve been re-reading my patriarchal blessing (Not LDS? Check it out here.) Obviously I’m not going to quote it here on Tumblr, but it has a phrase repeated over and over -Special Witness of Jesus Christ.
because last time I checked, all my aunts seem to do are the dishes. While the men( my uncles) sit and discuss more important matters in a living room setting. I just wish mormonism was more accepting of balance in household roles.
I’m sorry your family acts that way. I don’t think it’s entirely the church culture’s fault, yet a tradition that has yet to be broken in your family. I was raised in a similar family style, (mothers in charge of the “house” and fathers discussing/deciding and working outside the home) yet was taught by my church youth leaders and counselors that I should look for a partner, an equal in my spouse. I’ve never once been told by a leader or teacher in the church that a woman’s only place is in the home, or only responsibility is to have babies. I have been told that women tend to have talents towards child rearing etc, and I can see how some people can see this as girls being pushed into “traditional” roles, but that statement is almost always closely followed with something to the effect of you know your own talents and should pray with your family about how to run your own household.
I know some of my non-member friends see my life (a Stay at Home Mom, eager to have a second baby, cleaning dishes and mending clothes) and think it was forced upon me by my husband and church culture. It wasn’t. Some women CHOOSE this lifestyle. I enjoy staying at home with my daughter. I may not enjoy the chores (Ew, laundry) but I enjoy decorating and organizing my home. My husband works and earns the money, but I have an equal say in how we use it. He helps out when I need it, he interacts with his children, he teaches them just as much as I do. Our responsibilities are different, but equal in importance. We pick up each others slack, we work together as a team in everything. A woman who chooses to stay home and raise the kids isn’t a less of a woman.
okay, I just totally hijacked your post- SORRY!
I love it when people “call us out” on not being Christian.
dude, it’s in our name.
a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
Yeah, but we’re not Catholic, Methodist or Baptist so NOT CHRISTIAN!
Today none of the scheduled speakers showed up! The bishopric conferred real quick and then read a list of people to come up and bear their testimonies- all women! We heard from some YW leaders who just got back from camp (strangely none of the girls were!) and then a lengthy testimony from the wife of the Bishop’s 2nd Counselor. She had a great mini-talk (because she is a great public speaker and reads EVERYTHING) about children teaching adults- even in situations where the adults are the actual teachers. Each testimony focused on youth in some way; it was great to hear all these mothers and strong women talk about raising their children and the difference between a child active in church and a child active in the gospel.
My own mother has stopped going to church after her children moved out of the house (Myself, I stayed active/married in temple and my sister left the church entirely) When I try to understand why a woman who taught me so much about church and really affected my life decisions could just abandon them after I left is hard- but this woman at church had a great point. My mother was active in the Church, not the Gospel. My mom attended the pot lucks, drove us to and from YW activities, sent me to EFY, attended sunday meetings and did her callings, but in private she hardly ever did anything church related. I have no memories of FHE, family/private scripture study or prayer (except over dinner, if we had no guests). When no one from church was “watching” my mother, she didn’t participate. How could her testimony grow if she was just acting as Mormon out of tradition or a place for her children to go? And when the crutch of her children left, she had no connection to the church.
It just reminds me that while the Church provides such a great social and support system, it goes far far deeper than that. Acting as a Mormon will only get you so far in your knowledge and testimony, you need to truly LIVE the gospel. Even when you’re in private, even when it’s only you and God.